“Say (O Muhammad to mankind): “If you (really) love Allah, then follow me (i.e. accept Islamic monotheism, follow the Quran and the Sunnah), Allah will love you and forgive you your sins. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (Quran: 3:31)
Justice and Dealing with Equity
“Be just: that is nearer to piety; and fear Allah.” (Quran: 5:8)
“And Allah loves as-Sabirun (the patient).” (Quran: 3:146)
Putting Trust in Allah
“Certainly, Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him).” (Quran: 3:159)
Abu Hurairah and Anas Ibn Malik narrated: Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: “Allah loves rescuing the one who needs rescue.”
Being Gentle and Kind to Others
“ Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: “Allah is kind and gentle (to others).”
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Perfection of One’s Work
The Prophet Mohammed (peace be upon him) said: “Allah loves that if one does a job he perfects it.”
“Aisha narrated: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Allah loves kindliness in all matters.”(Bukhari)
“Truly, Allah loves those who turn unto him in repentance.” (Quran: 2:222)
“Verily, then Allah loves those who are al-Muttaqun (the pious).”
“Truly, Allah loves Al-Muhsinun (the good-doers).” (Quran: 2:195)
Humility of the Rich
Muslim narrated: Sa’d Ibn Abi Waqqas said: Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: “Allah loves the believer who is pious and rich, but does not show off.”
Belief and Work
Al-Tabarani narrated: Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: “Allah loves the slave who believes and acquires a career (or work).”
Exhortation and Advising
Abdullah, the son of Imam Ahmed narrated: It was said: Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: “The best loved slaves to Allah are those who exhort their slaves.”
Reflection of Allah’s Grace
Al-Tirmidhi narrated: Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: “Allah loves from amongst his slaves, the one who has a sense of zeal or honor.”
“And Allah loves those who make themselves clean and pure [ i.e. who clean their private parts with dust (which has the properties of soap) and water from urine and stools, after answering the call of nature].”(Quran: 9:108)
Al-Hakim narrated: The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: “Allah is All-Generous and He loves generosity in sale, purchase and judgment.”
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: ” Allah loves the slave-believer who is poor but virtuous enough to refrain from begging though he has many children.” (Muslim and Ahmed)
Al-Tabarani narrated: the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: “Allah loves lofty matters and superiority and hates inferior matters.”
Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: “Allah loves that you be just toward your children even when kissing them.” (Ibn Al-Najjar)
Muslim narrated: Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: “The strong believer is better and more loved by Allah than the weak one, but they are both good.”
Love for the Sake of Allah
Al-Tabarani, Ibn Ya’la, Ibn Hibban and Al-Hakim narrated: Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: “If two men love each other for the sake of Allah, the stronger in love to his brother will be more loved by Allah.”
Ibn Iday narrated: Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: “Allah is All-Forgiving and He loves forgiveness.”
Continuous Performance of Righteous Deeds
Bukhari and Muslim narrated: Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: “The best loved deeds to Allah are the ones that are continuous even if they are not very many.”
Loving and Visiting Believers
Malik narrated: Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: “Allah said: My love is due to those who meet for My sake, visit one another and make any effort for My pleasure.”
Love of Virtuous Deeds
Ibn Abi Al-Dunya narrated: Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: “The best loved slaves to Allah are those who are made to love virtue and loving virtuous deeds is made lovely to them.”
In today’s world, many societies only value the women if they perform the functions of man and display her feminine attractions to public. These women are also given the immense responsibility of bearing and rearing children. In short, today’s woman is given responsibility of looking after and earning bread and butter for home. She is also been exploited in the name of so called freedom which is in fact a freedom for men accessing women easily. Woman has to bear more burden than a man in society in name of gender equality. Failed marriages and emotionally distraught children are increasing in number due to gender role differentiation.
Islam values the importance of woman in society but it considers importance of woman in society in a way which is different than modern way discussed above. Regardless of race, color, gender or any other criteria the superiority is Islam is only based on faith , obedience and fear of Allah SWT. Islam clearly demarcates the boundary between the responsibilities of each gender. Allah SWT has entrusted woman for most important duty which is compatible to her.
Nevertheless, Islam is a practical religion, and understands conditions and situations of life. There are many situations in woman may need or want to work. There is common misconception about Islam that it prohibits women from working outside but in real it does not stops women from working but it stipulate some restrictions to save women from exploitation and safeguarding her honor and dignity. Some conditions for muslim women seeking employment is given below.
Marriage is one of the most important relationship in Islam. It is the first relationship Allah SWT made between Prophet Adam and Hawa (Eve) and all other relations ships are result of this relationship. Marriage is an act of Sunnah and is highly recommended in Islam. Islam also regards marriage as a way to acquire spiritual perfection.
Allah says in Qur’an:
“And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in peace and tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): Verily in that are signs for those who reflect” (Quran 30:21).
The above verse shows that it is very important to marry because Allah SWT has made us for each other and he places love and mercy in our hearts.
“And marry those among you who are single and those who are fit among your male slaves and your female slaves; if they are needy, Allah will make them free from want out of His grace; and Allah is Ample-giving, Knowing.” (Surah an-Nur, 24:32)
From the above verse it is imperative that Allah want us to live a social life instead of living in apostasy. Islam forbids apostasy and given us social responsibilities and marriage is one of most important responsibility one can have in social life. Allah SWT also mentions in Quran that don’t avoid marriage because of lack of financial sources. Most of people now a day spend most of life in building their career before marriage and marry in middle ages. This make them deprive of happiness of life and
bear the hardships of life alone. In Surah Nisa Allah SWT says:
“O Humans revere your Guardian Lord, Who created you from a single person created of like nature its mate, and from this scattered (like seeds) countless men and women. Reverence Allah through Whom you claim your mutual rights” (Quran 4:1).
Importance of marriage in Islam is also evident from the verse below:
“And Allah has made for you your mates of your own nature, and made for you, out of them, sons and daughters and grandchildren, and provided for you sustenance of the best.” [Noble Quran 16:72]
Importance of Marriage according to hadith:
Prophet Mohammed Peace be upon him said:
“O you young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty.” [Al-Bukhari]
The above hadith shows that Islam wants its believers to live a life of modesty and chastity instead of vagrant relationships.
“Marriage is my sunnah. Whosoever keeps away from it is not from me.”
The hadith above shows dislike of prophet Mohammed Peace be upon him for a person who avoids marriage for no reason.
“Modesty was regarded as a great virtue by the Prophet. He said, “Modesty is part of faith.” [Al-Bukhari]
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No previously-married woman (widow or divorcee) may be married until she has been asked about her wishes (i.e., she should state clearly her wishes), and no virgin should be married until her permission has been asked (i.e., until she has agreed either in words or by remaining silent).” They asked, “O Messenger of Allaah, how is her permission given (because she will feel very shy)?” He said: “By her silence.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 4741)
Islam regards marriage as a right of the individual and therefore others cannot make the decision for them This shows that permission of women is necessary in Islam for marriage. A widowed or divorced women must give verbal permission for their marriage and virgin girl’s permission must be asked. There is no forced marriage in Islam.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Announce marriages.” (Reported by Imaam Ahmad; classed as hasan in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 1027)
In Islam concept of Ideal women is different from the man made concepts which are exploiting women in the name of freedom and equality. Islam gives women a set of genuine responsibilities which are which suits her. By no means Islam suppress the women or negates the role of women in building a society. The important saying states that:
Behind every successful man there is a woman.”
All successful person is nurtured in the laps of women. Men are molded in the shadows of ideal women. It may be the touch of a loving mother or the embrace of a devoted wife which propels man to the summits of success.
According to Islam the ideal woman is the nucleus of the family and bonds the whole family strongly. When the father is busy earning bread and butter for family it’s the ideal women who take care of kids by wrapping them in blanket of love and affection. Child needs love and concentration which is not possible if both parents and involve in making money for family. There must be one who can feed them ardently with the desired care and love. The mother act as first learning institute for kid and sets the foundation for education for kid. A ideal Muslim lady is the one who set a strong foundation. When a practicing Muslim mother worships Allah SWT at her home, her kids will observes the mother inquisitively and try to intimate her and they will learn to worship Allah in young age. With the time he/she will turn into a God fearing and responsible person. A Muslim women is also responsible for building a strong moral character in her kids.
Like other mothers the ideal women of Islam also tells stories to their kids. But her stories are not about fictitious characters, she narrates the stories of our beloved Prophet Mohammed Peace be upon him, other prophets, noble companions and other pious Muslims. She narrates the stories which infuses lofty aspirations and inspires kids with real heroes. It’s the ideal women that introduce her kids to Allah Almighty and induce his love in their hearts. She is the one who gives concept of right and wrong and places halal morsels in the mouth of kids. She raises kids with voice of Quran resonating in their ears which instills the prophetic value and ethics is them. She is the mother which tells her kids to start every work with the name of Allah and such a mother is ideal woman in Islam.
The sight of an ideal woman is cooling and soothing to her parents coolness of her parent’s eye. She serves her parents and protect her chastity and honor for sake of her parent’s honor. She brings delight and pride to her parents. She is like a princess to her husband as she treats him like a prince. She does not fall short in her duties to her husband. She keeps intensity of love high with her husband and makes home a place which can dissolve all tiredness and frustration.
The ideal woman is a caring friend. Her shoulder is always nearby for a friend in need. She is a refuge for the weak ones. Others find solace and comfort in her midst. She expels evil, sadness and gloom with her soft touch. Her soft and warm tone draws the hearts together.
In essence, the ideal woman is the pivot of humanity. She is the balance in society. She is the one who has to raise a upcoming generation. She is jewel of her parents, a fortune for the children, treasure of her husband and blessing for humanity.