Marriage is one of the most important relationship in Islam. It is the first relationship Allah SWT made between Prophet Adam and Hawa (Eve) and all other relations ships are result of this relationship. Marriage is an act of Sunnah and is highly recommended in Islam. Islam also regards marriage as a way to acquire spiritual perfection.
Allah says in Qur’an:
“And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in peace and tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): Verily in that are signs for those who reflect” (Quran 30:21).
The above verse shows that it is very important to marry because Allah SWT has made us for each other and he places love and mercy in our hearts.
“And marry those among you who are single and those who are fit among your male slaves and your female slaves; if they are needy, Allah will make them free from want out of His grace; and Allah is Ample-giving, Knowing.” (Surah an-Nur, 24:32)
From the above verse it is imperative that Allah want us to live a social life instead of living in apostasy. Islam forbids apostasy and given us social responsibilities and marriage is one of most important responsibility one can have in social life. Allah SWT also mentions in Quran that don’t avoid marriage because of lack of financial sources. Most of people now a day spend most of life in building their career before marriage and marry in middle ages. This make them deprive of happiness of life and
bear the hardships of life alone. In Surah Nisa Allah SWT says:
“O Humans revere your Guardian Lord, Who created you from a single person created of like nature its mate, and from this scattered (like seeds) countless men and women. Reverence Allah through Whom you claim your mutual rights” (Quran 4:1).
Importance of marriage in Islam is also evident from the verse below:
“And Allah has made for you your mates of your own nature, and made for you, out of them, sons and daughters and grandchildren, and provided for you sustenance of the best.” [Noble Quran 16:72]
Importance of Marriage according to hadith:
Prophet Mohammed Peace be upon him said:
“O you young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty.” [Al-Bukhari]
The above hadith shows that Islam wants its believers to live a life of modesty and chastity instead of vagrant relationships.
“Marriage is my sunnah. Whosoever keeps away from it is not from me.”
The hadith above shows dislike of prophet Mohammed Peace be upon him for a person who avoids marriage for no reason.
“Modesty was regarded as a great virtue by the Prophet. He said, “Modesty is part of faith.” [Al-Bukhari]
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No previously-married woman (widow or divorcee) may be married until she has been asked about her wishes (i.e., she should state clearly her wishes), and no virgin should be married until her permission has been asked (i.e., until she has agreed either in words or by remaining silent).” They asked, “O Messenger of Allaah, how is her permission given (because she will feel very shy)?” He said: “By her silence.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 4741)
Islam regards marriage as a right of the individual and therefore others cannot make the decision for them This shows that permission of women is necessary in Islam for marriage. A widowed or divorced women must give verbal permission for their marriage and virgin girl’s permission must be asked. There is no forced marriage in Islam.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Announce marriages.” (Reported by Imaam Ahmad; classed as hasan in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 1027)
In Islam concept of Ideal women is different from the man made concepts which are exploiting women in the name of freedom and equality. Islam gives women a set of genuine responsibilities which are which suits her. By no means Islam suppress the women or negates the role of women in building a society. The important saying states that:
Behind every successful man there is a woman.”
All successful person is nurtured in the laps of women. Men are molded in the shadows of ideal women. It may be the touch of a loving mother or the embrace of a devoted wife which propels man to the summits of success.
According to Islam the ideal woman is the nucleus of the family and bonds the whole family strongly. When the father is busy earning bread and butter for family it’s the ideal women who take care of kids by wrapping them in blanket of love and affection. Child needs love and concentration which is not possible if both parents and involve in making money for family. There must be one who can feed them ardently with the desired care and love. The mother act as first learning institute for kid and sets the foundation for education for kid. A ideal Muslim lady is the one who set a strong foundation. When a practicing Muslim mother worships Allah SWT at her home, her kids will observes the mother inquisitively and try to intimate her and they will learn to worship Allah in young age. With the time he/she will turn into a God fearing and responsible person. A Muslim women is also responsible for building a strong moral character in her kids.
Like other mothers the ideal women of Islam also tells stories to their kids. But her stories are not about fictitious characters, she narrates the stories of our beloved Prophet Mohammed Peace be upon him, other prophets, noble companions and other pious Muslims. She narrates the stories which infuses lofty aspirations and inspires kids with real heroes. It’s the ideal women that introduce her kids to Allah Almighty and induce his love in their hearts. She is the one who gives concept of right and wrong and places halal morsels in the mouth of kids. She raises kids with voice of Quran resonating in their ears which instills the prophetic value and ethics is them. She is the mother which tells her kids to start every work with the name of Allah and such a mother is ideal woman in Islam.
The sight of an ideal woman is cooling and soothing to her parents coolness of her parent’s eye. She serves her parents and protect her chastity and honor for sake of her parent’s honor. She brings delight and pride to her parents. She is like a princess to her husband as she treats him like a prince. She does not fall short in her duties to her husband. She keeps intensity of love high with her husband and makes home a place which can dissolve all tiredness and frustration.
The ideal woman is a caring friend. Her shoulder is always nearby for a friend in need. She is a refuge for the weak ones. Others find solace and comfort in her midst. She expels evil, sadness and gloom with her soft touch. Her soft and warm tone draws the hearts together.
In essence, the ideal woman is the pivot of humanity. She is the balance in society. She is the one who has to raise a upcoming generation. She is jewel of her parents, a fortune for the children, treasure of her husband and blessing for humanity.
As a parent it is our responsibility to make our kids responsible and characterful Muslims. Parent are first example in front of kids, kids follow actions and conduct of their parent. It parent duty to educate kids not simply by telling them about good habit but they should act as responsible and characterful parents. According to Islam we’ll be subjected to questioning about those who are under our care. At least we are caretaker of kids so we will be held responsible for them.So it is our duty to up bring our kids in better way and teach them good manners. Here are some sole traits which we must develop in our kids.
The first and most important characteristic we must develop in our children is honesty. Some time parent are so strict that children are afraid of telling them their wrongdoings. So to escape from situation they find way in telling lie. As a parent we should give enough trust to our kids so that they can speak truth in all conditions and we should encourage them doing so.
Obedience is index trait of Muslims. We all Muslims are always very obedient to Our Allah Almighty. We must also develop this trait in our kids so that they can be obedient to Allah. We also make them obedient towards parents, teachers, elders and noble people. As a parent we should give our kids latitude but we also bound them in limit by enforcing obedience through proper rewards and sanctions.
We should teach our children respect for others and authority. Our kids must be very respectful to all religions, cultures and beliefs. They way we up bring our children is reflected in their conduct. The more we be respectful and mannerly we will be able to see these qualities in our kids too.
We should start giving responsibility too our kids in young age. We can develop their interest in performing small tasks and chores in the home and we should encourage them for their work. This will create maturity and confidence in kids to take up responsibilities. With the age our kids will be maintaining their selves, taking care of their possessions and they will grow up more disciplined and responsible.
Among the courtesies and good manners politeness is best reflection of a refined character. We should teach our kids the Islamic way of greeting, expressing gratitude, speaking manners and dealing manners. We must be very concerned about
It is common courtesies and good manners towards others that set apart a refined character and an intolerable personality. By teaching our children how to greet, express gratitude, how to speak to adults and even to leave alone matters that do not concern them, we would have given them a key to the door of inter-personal relations.
We often get confused to demarcate between frienldiness with strangers and and caution. If we will teach our students not to speak with stranger they will never get confidence to become socialbe. We need to make them sociable when needed. Abu Dharr Radhi-Allahu anhu reported that the Prophet Mohammed Sallallahu alayhi wasallam said:
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Author: Learn Quran Staff